TRANSCEND
Beyond Right and Wrong
The Truth As It Is
Kalawathi
Nadarajah
© 2009 Kalawathi Nadarajah
First Edition, 2009
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ISBN 978-983-4-442705
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Kalawathi Nadarajah
This book is dedicated to my husband Matthias Gerhard Schuebel who was the pillar of strength behind the completion of this book, whose uncorrupted flame of encouragement ceased all adverse situations, circumstances to make this book a reality.
Dedication to my late father Nadarajah Suppiah whose undisturbed strength saw life in just one perspective “being alive and zestful, without whom I would not have acquired all my determination, endurance to go through life just the way as he did.
Dedication to my mother Thanaletchimi Thangarajoo whose heart is as large as it can ever be, as compassionate as it can ever be, something that I am yet to come across. A few moments just looking into her eyes reflects intense pure love without whom, my connection to my heart and intuitions would just be a defeat.
Dedication to our two children Hema Abirami Schuebel and Lavenia Shivaghami Schuebel both, whose hyper active hilarious dispositions never fail to amaze me, to realize that life can be indeed that beautiful.
Dedication to my brother Asohan and my sister Sri Ranjini whose funny perspective of life brings back all those memorable days of nice melodies, over endless sips of Indian tea by the sunset.
Dedication to my in laws, Werner Schuebel, Anna Sigrid Schuebel, Markus Reinhard Schuebel and my friends Roland and Brigette for their unwavering support towards all my endeavors and accomplishments.
Dedication to my great friend Sumathi Rasalingam who is a prime example of a woman whose dedication to anything greater than herself has often lift me up to see life from the brighter side.
Dedication to all my masters, teachers, friends and clients who had directly or indirectly contributed to my intellectual evolution.
Deep appreciation to my best friend Manonmaney Ramadass, a true woman whose large heart with her tireless effort in formatting, text laying out, illustrating the graphic design of my manuscript TRANSCEND-BEYOND RIGHT AND WRONG, THE TRUTH AS IT IS made it a reality.
Appreciation and gratitude to our Great Spiritual Masters Gnanavallal Paranjothi Subramaniam, Paranjothi Mahan, Paramahansa Yogananda, Babaji, Krishnamurti, through whom the Secrets of Secrets flowed through.
Appreciation to the flow of the transcendental through which all contents of the book was made a reality, to which I am no more than just an instrument.
contents
PART 1 : REFLECTIONS
Part 2 : ESSAYS
1 Freedom Must Accompany Wisdom 112
2 A
Woman Is Necessary For A Man’s
Path To Enlightenment 116
3 Who
Is The Right Marriage
Partner 127
4 Alcoholism 135
5 You
Both Don’t Need To Be
Together For Children’s Sake 140
6 Why
Your Good Man’s Heart Is For
The Other Woman 142
7 Dreams Of Your Children 144
8 A
Woman’s Alliance Is Necessary
For Wealth 146
9 Lasting
Relationships Has Two
Elements 148
10 To Be Wealthy You Need A Vision 150
11 Enlightenment Is Not Somewhere 156
12 Where Is God 159
13 Respect
Your Self Above
Everything 161
14 Developing
Intelligence In
Children 162
15 An Intelligent Child Can Appear Irresponsible 168
16 Looking For Love Is An Escape 171
17 Why
The Religious Cannot
Convince Us To Undestand God 173
18 Why Are You A Vegetarian 181
19 Everything
Good Or Bad Is Paid
Intensive In Meditation Than
Prayers
184
20 Spirituality
Is Not About
Escaping 186
21 Why
Your Lover Cannot Wear
Flesh Revealing Clothes-a
Dark Side
Reflection 188
22 What Is Love 190
23 You
Are Not Over With Your
Dark Sides 193
24 It’s
Easier To Point The Finger At
The Rapist Yet The Worst In Us Is
Not The Worst In The Rapist Yet 195
25 Materialism
Was Not Necessay
Those Days And As Such Enlightenment Was Easier
199
26 Unlived Darkside Of Parents Gets Transfered To The Children 203
27 Step
Away From The Ego And
Become The Wise Winner 207
28 Unfaithful
Belongs To Your
Partner 209
29 You
Are Not As Saintly As You
Thought 213
30 Your Son’s Dreams 216
31 What Is Your Desire For Your Son 217
32 A
Woman Must Also Respect A
Woman Who Is A Sex Worker 219
33 Ask To Be Rich For Yourself 223
34 A
Woman Can Be The Support To A
Man’s Riches 226
35 Every
Customer Deserves Your
Attention 228
36 Everyone’s
Work Is Very
Important 230
37 Sex Is An Expression Of Love 232
38 Ecsatcies In Sex 234
39 What Is Sex 235
40 An Affair Is A Mutual Agreement 237
41 WILL
EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS CREATE
KARMIC IMBALANCES 239
42 Get
Blessings From The Sincerest
Not The Ones With Robes 250
43 Spiritual Ego 252
44 Everything You Like Or Dislike Is Your Dark Side 254
45 Collective
Dark Sides Invites
Disasters 256
46 Money Is Important It Put’s You At Ease Yet It Should Not Make You Greedy 259
47 Never
Be Ashamed Of What You Are
Doing You Are Doing Exactly What You
Should Be Doing 262
48 Money
Is Not Everything, It’s The
Main Thing 265
49 In A Relationship One Is Taking More And The Other Is Giving More. 267
50 A
Single Marriage Partner Cannot
Satisfy All Our Personalities And
So The Search Will Always Continue For Another 269
51 Work
Now And Enjoy Later Is An
Old Miserable Story 281
52 Why I Married Six Times 286
53 Victor
Frankl PARAMAHANSA
YOGANANDA 289
54 Two
Monks And The Beautiful
Woman 291
55 How Poor Are We 293
56 Flying
By Roger Dean Kiser, Sr.,
Heart Warmers For You 295
57 ONE WHO IS SKILLED IN DEFEAT SHALL NEVER SEE DESTRUCTION 298
58 THE JOURNEY
BY SWAMI ASHOKANANDA 300
59 BEING
IN LOVE- ATTRACTION AND
OPPOSITION BY OSHO 302
60 ESSENCE OF SRI BHAGAVAD GITA 306
part 1
REFLECTIONS
SURRENDERING AND SLAVERY
The difference between surrendering and slavery
is that of heaven and hell chained by you.
Surrendering is loving all that you can do,
with all that you would do, with immense love.
Slavery is doing everything you can do
with all that you would do, with absence of
immense
love. What becomes hell or heaven
for your lover is your own
choosing with love
or without love.
FALLEN IN LOVE
Love is an extraordinary breeze,
Touched by it all will fall in it.
So than who needs a permission
to fall in love, when you have
already fallen in love
BUTTERFLIES IN LOVE
Two butterflies fluttering with romance,
And in the midst of that romance,
one joyously teased the other,
‘Who says I needed your love’,
To which the wiser replied,
‘If you didn’t I wouldn’t be here’
LOVE WAS THERE ALL THE TIME
In a world that saw all that I have,
was also love which stripped that all,
and saw only me.
I than curiously questioned love,
“Where were you all these while”?
……. after a long silence,
Love gazed piercingly into my eyes
And said, “here, I was here
all these while’, you just didn’t notice me….
You thought the false world is real
and forgot the real me
ENORMOUS IN LOVE
Some simple lovers live magnificently
because of enormous love.
And some rich famous live so poorly
because of enormous riches,
and enormous absence of love.
LOVER IS SEEKING
She is appearing because her lover
had asked for her. “Her love too is appearing
because her lover is seeking for her love”.
There is no
co-incidence, the universe had
worked it out so perfectly, so
precisely
LOVE IS HERE
Love is not about flying from
ceiling to
ceiling with some seamless
translucent robes.
If love is seen that way,
Than you are missing
an interesting point,
A point that reads,
“Look at me, I am here,
I am love” And I am real
NEED FOR LOVE
If the need for love can be cured by
Some lighted candles and roses,
Than long time ago, let’s say,
about a hundred years back
we would have all run out of
romantic candles and rose bushes
YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE IT BY LOVE
That which cannot be changed by love
cannot be
changed at all, and yes half of
the world can breathe now,
and
the other half should try again.
True indeed it’s not easy that way,
It’s just the difficult truth, in a simple way.
FIRST GLANCE
All true love is unravelling
in the first glance,
All love sustains in the
Miracle gaze of the lovers
TRUE LOVE
‘What true, can love be?
If it cannot afford you wings’
AN INSTANT MOMENT
An instant moment with a lovely one
is more living than a life time
with a one who is not.
LOVE IS A MYSTERIOUS WAVE
When one is in love with oneself,
And so completely, a mysterious
wave is set into motion.
A wave that says there is never
A need to be with another,
For love is a mystical wind,
The very instant you are in love with yourself,
Every one else will also fall in love with you.
And the truth is that they are not falling in love
With your pretty eyes or your lovely face,
They are just falling in love,
With the love you have.
WHO IS THE BLIND, DEAF AND DUMB
The blind is not the one who is unable to see,
The deaf is not the one who is unable to hear.
And the dumb is not the one who is unable to speak.
The blind are those who don’t see the moments.
The deaf are those who don’t hear
the sweetness of his lover,
The dumb are those who cannot say,
“I’m still in love with you”.
And no one is more handicapped…
LOVE TO HUMANITY
The love springing between a man and woman
led the way to humanity.
And sadly the same love faceted
into hatred tearing apart all that
earned love to the destruction of humanity
IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE DEARLY
If you love someone dearly,
than present him two sets of the same gift,
one for him, the other is for the one,
whom he loves too much,
and the other can be his mother,
can be his sister,
can be his brother,
can be his companion.
The other can be anyone else
except you.
THE LIGHT IN YOUR EYES
The light in your eyes is enough,
to reveal the love in your heart
no word is more necessary
LOVE WAS ALWAYS THERE
Love was always there,
and always there for all of us.
Should you understand
love in your heart,
than you will come
to understand that love does
not require your approval or a yes.
It will always be there whether
it brought you to your lover or not.
And it will always be there
whether the lover is with you or not.
The only lightness you have to give
is two large pair of wings.
And it will be yours till eternity
Always yours till eternity
IF LOVE EXISTED
If love truly existed
you will know it instantly,
If you have missed it,
you will know it instantly too.
When it’s not around,
It feels like a big hole in your heart.
IF LOVE IS PURE ENOUGH
If your love is pure enough
to pierce through the barriers
and turmoil’s of another heart,
Than what else can one say,
As usual love has won again.
LOVE CAN BE FELT
Why waste time expressing
love so elaborately,
If love was there, it can be
felt enormously,
Even in your absence
or at a far distance.
For there is no vibration
higher than love
MY LOVERS EYES
The one lover whispered to the other,
you have the most beautiful eyes
I have ever seen,
To which the other replied,
And that is so because
It’s you who is looking at it…
LOVE NEVER LOST ITS MAGIC
It is not that love has lost all it’s magic,
for there is no place void of love,
empty of love,
or short of love.
What man has lost now,
is the sight to see love,
and a touch to feel love.
If he had truly embraced love,
That would have kept him speechless,
With his eyes closed in worship,
And deep gratitude.
Gratitude because love is
too much overpowering just to contain,
It has to keep you speechless.
LOVE IS SOFTER THAN EVER
Softer than the fine feathers
of the pillow and richer
than the luxurious diamonds
are the true palms
of the true loveliest.
UNDER THE SHADE OF A LOVELY ONE
Under the shade of a lovely one,
Anyone would transform vibrantly,
For love can only do extra ordinary things.
Never anything ordinary.
IF YOUR LOVER MATTERS TO YOU
If loving your lover matters to you
much more than everything else,
than loving your lover of everything else,
must matter to you as much,
Especially the ones you,
personally dislike too much.
NAKED LOVE
Do not love me first,
for you would blindly think
that it’s about diamonds
and jewels that I need.
Instead allow me to love you first,
so that I could strip all that
hooks and lies about
diamonds and jewels.
And from than onwards-
I will have you love me
as naked as possible.
You will than have a chance
to dance liberally in my naked love,
and understand freedom.
WHOM TO STAND TOGETHER TO FALL IN LOVE
Haven’t you noticed, if you stand in
two palm trees together,
within seconds they will breeze through
each other and fall in love again.
If you stand in two kids together
instantly they will play in joy
without asking each other’s name and
they too will fall in love again.
But you see, strangely if you stand in
two strangers in a sitting,
they would
rather prefer to talk
to the walls to the ceilings,
fans or
the magazines…
And again if you stand in
a man and a wife together,
they would consciously drift
to walk separately as if
Love just took a break for good…
Worst still, if you stand in
two neighbors together,
they would somehow speed
to close their doors as if war
has
swallowed love a thousand
years ago.
After all these, one thing is clear.
It appears as if to fall in love
Or to understand love,
there are only two possibilities.
We must either sit and watch
the palm trees or sit and watch
life through the eyes of our children.
I ONLY WANT TO DANCE WITH YOU YET I CAN WAIT
I only want to dance with you
though I am wanted to dance with many.
I understand your need for your stillness
and its importance.
It’s importance over your urges,
Over your urges, over me.
So than in that understanding by itself,
I will stay silent, and in that silence
I will never ask of you for a dance,
Or dance with that many in my waiting for you.
It is not difficult for me to wait for you,
To wait for you till eternity, that’s easy.
Forever is just moments away.
IF YOU LOVE HIM TRULY
If you have truly loved him,
than you would silently
wish love for all those whom he loves.
If you have affluently loved him,
than you would be generous with that
which is music to all his ears.
If you had seriously loved him,
than you will withhold all your burdens
so that none of it weighs his heart.
And again if you have truly loved him,
than you will love everything that
he loves of himself
and everything that
he does not love of himself.
Do you truly love him than?
WHAT IS SO EXTRAORDINARY IN HIM
By now if you have not seen
anything extraordinary in him,
than obviously you have not seen him at all.
But you see, truth is very peculiar.
The extraordinary in him only surfaces,
When you are stubborn and willing enough
to see the extraordinary in him.
WHAT HAPPENED THAT HE FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU